sink(ticdc): Optimize the performance when getting the metadata of Kafka topics (#9060) (#9104)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #9104

This is an automated cherry-pick of #9060

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #8959 close #8957

What is changed and how it works?

Get the metadata by needs instead of getting all topic's metadata.

Fixed a bug in the original implementation, the semantics of the original GetTopicMeta v2 implementation and v1 were not the same. Now it's the same, add a continue and it's fine.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Manual test

Questions

Will it cause performance regression or break compatibility?

No

Do you need to update user documentation, design documentation or monitoring documentation?

No

Release note

Optimize the performance when TiCDC gets the metadata of Kafka topics

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