Fix bug where editing a frequent site wouldn't apply the change.

[fallaciousreasoning]

Partially fixes the issue in brave/brave-browser#14606

This was happening because we prepopulate the CustomLinks with the user's top sites the first time that switch to CustomLinks mode. This means that when you edit a TopSite it may already exist in the CustomLinks.

The solution is pretty straightforward: Instead of always trying to add a new CustomLink, try and update first. If the update fails, fallback to adding.

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[simonhong]

++
This PR improves but original issue seems to want edit the item in frequency mode itself?

[fallaciousreasoning]

Okay, I've updated the description to say it partially fixes the issue, so it doesn't close the other ticket.