tidb-binlog: update kafka-max-message-size configuration (#7445)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #7445

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update kafka-max-message-size configuration

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• Other reference link(s): drainer: fix kafka message limit problem tidb-binlog#1039

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/merge

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