*: global memory controller should not kill session whose mem less than limit_sess_min_size (#42803)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #42803

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number:
close #42662
close #42664

Problem Summary:
As the description mentioned here:
#42662 (comment)

What is changed and how it works?

1. Reset NeekKill flag even error is thrown during the planner phase or executor.Open phase
2. Do not kill the session whose memory usage is less than tidb_server_memory_limit_sess_min_size

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test

If we run the same test on master branch, the following error will be thrown:

    testkit.go:157: 
        	Error Trace:	/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit/testkit.go:157
        	            				/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit/testkit.go:150
        	            				/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/executor_test.go:6521
        	Error:      	Received unexpected error:
        	            	Out Of Memory Quota![conn=12345]
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor.(*ExecStmt).openExecutor.func1
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/adapter.go:1188
        	            	runtime.gopanic
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/.gvm/gos/go1.20/src/runtime/panic.go:884
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/util/memory.(*PanicOnExceed).Action
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/util/memory/action.go:149
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/util/memory.(*Tracker).Consume.func2
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/util/memory/tracker.go:450
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/util/memory.(*Tracker).Consume
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/util/memory/tracker.go:462
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor.(*HashAggExec).initForParallelExec
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/aggregate.go:395
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor.(*HashAggExec).Open
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/aggregate.go:321
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor.(*ExecStmt).openExecutor
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/adapter.go:1192
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor.(*ExecStmt).Exec
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/adapter.go:527
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/session.runStmt
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/session/session.go:2343
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/session.(*session).ExecuteStmt
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/session/session.go:2200
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit.(*TestKit).ExecWithContext
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit/testkit.go:325
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit.(*TestKit).MustQueryWithContext
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit/testkit.go:156
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit.(*TestKit).MustQuery
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/testkit/testkit.go:150
        	            	github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor_test.TestIssue42662
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/Development/GOPATH/src/github.com/pingcap/tidb/executor/executor_test.go:6521
        	            	testing.tRunner
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/.gvm/gos/go1.20/src/testing/testing.go:1576
        	            	runtime.goexit
        	            		/Users/xuhuaiyu/.gvm/gos/go1.20/src/runtime/asm_amd64.s:1598
        	Test:       	TestIssue42662
        	Messages:   	sql:select count(*) from t1, args:[]

• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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Fix the problem that global memory controller kill the sqls whose memory usage are less than tidb_server_memory_limit_sess_min_size defined.

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[XuHuaiyu]

/merge

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This pull request has been accepted and is ready to merge.

Commit hash: 44c1f94

[hawkingrei]

/retest