*: add memory tracker for mppIterator (#40901)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #40901

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #40900
Problem Summary:

What is changed and how it works?

Track the memory usage of mppIterator

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

mysql> set tidb_mem_quota_query = 1 <<30;
mysql> desc analyze  select * from `sli-gauge-metric`  order by cluster_id;
+----------------------------+------------+---------+--------------+------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------------------
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+-------------
---------------------+----------+---------+
| id                         | estRows    | actRows | task         | access object          | execution info                                                       
                                                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                                     | operator inf
o                    | memory   | disk    |
+----------------------------+------------+---------+--------------+------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------------------
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+-------------
---------------------+----------+---------+
| Sort_4                     | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | root         |                        | time:1m47.8s, loops:1008                                             
                                                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                                     | test.sli-gau
ge-metric.cluster_id | 1.12 GB  | 7.39 GB |
| └─TableReader_14       | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | root         |                        | time:42.5s, loops:1018, cop_task: {num: 28, max: 0s, min: 0s, avg: 0s, p9
5: 0s, copr_cache_hit_ratio: 0.00}                                                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                                                 | data:ExchangeSen
der_13           | 485.7 MB | N/A     |
|   └─ExchangeSender_13  | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | mpp[tiflash] |                        | tiflash_task:{proc max:5.71s, min:2.24s, avg: 3.97s, p80:5.71s, p95:5.71s
, iters:26, tasks:2, threads:21}                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                                 | ExchangeType: Pa
ssThrough        | N/A      | N/A     |
|     └─TableFullScan_12 | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | mpp[tiflash] | table:sli-gauge-metric | tiflash_task:{proc max:1.84s, min:660.7ms, avg: 1.25s, p80:1.84s, p95:1.$4s, iters:26, tasks:2, threads:21}, tiflash_scan:{dtfile:{total_scanned_packs:147, total_skipped_packs:46, total_scanned_rows:1035088, total_skipped_rows:373766, $otal_rs_index_load_time: 0ms, total_read_time: 24748ms}, total_create_snapshot_time: 0ms, total_local_region_num: 0, total_remote_region_num: 0} | keep order:fals$                 | N/A      | N/A     |
+----------------------------+------------+---------+--------------+------------------------+---------------------------------------------------------------------$------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------$-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+------------$---------------------+----------+---------+
4 rows in set (1 min 49.58 sec)

mysql> set tidb_mem_quota_query = 500 << 20;
mysql> desc analyze  select * from `sli-gauge-metric`  order by cluster_id;
ERROR 1105 (HY000): Out Of Memory Quota![conn_id=7037804604603498899]

mysql> set tidb_mem_quota_query = 1 << 40;
mysql> desc analyze  select * from `sli-gauge-metric`  order by cluster_id;
+----------------------------+------------+---------+--------------+------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------------------
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+----------------
------------------+----------+---------+
| id                         | estRows    | actRows | task         | access object          | execution info                                                       
                                                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                                  | operator info  
                  | memory   | disk    |
+----------------------------+------------+---------+--------------+------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------------------
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+----------------
------------------+----------+---------+
| Sort_4                     | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | root         |                        | time:1m3.6s, loops:1008                                              
                                                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                                  | test.sli-gauge-
metric.cluster_id | 7.47 GB  | 0 Bytes |
| └─TableReader_14       | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | root         |                        | time:59.3s, loops:1016, cop_task: {num: 23, max: 0s, min: 0s, avg: 0s, p9
5: 0s, copr_cache_hit_ratio: 0.00}                                                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                                              | data:ExchangeSender
_13           | 488.6 MB | N/A     |
|   └─ExchangeSender_13  | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | mpp[tiflash] |                        | tiflash_task:{proc max:7.25s, min:2.23s, avg: 4.74s, p80:7.25s, p95:7.25s
, iters:21, tasks:2, threads:16}                                                                                                                                   
                                                                                                                                              | ExchangeType: PassT
hrough        | N/A      | N/A     |
|     └─TableFullScan_12 | 1151072.00 | 1031072 | mpp[tiflash] | table:sli-gauge-metric | tiflash_task:{proc max:1.61s, min:656.1ms, avg: 1.13s, p80:1.61s, p95:1.6
1s, iters:21, tasks:2, threads:16}, tiflash_scan:{dtfile:{total_scanned_packs:147, total_skipped_packs:1, total_scanned_rows:1035088, total_skipped_rows:7681, tota
l_rs_index_load_time: 0ms, total_read_time: 22349ms}, total_create_snapshot_time: 0ms, total_local_region_num: 0, total_remote_region_num: 0} | keep order:false   
              | N/A      | N/A     |
+----------------------------+------------+---------+--------------+------------------------+----------------------------------------------------------------------
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------+----------------
------------------+----------+---------+
4 rows in set (1 min 3.57 sec)

• No code

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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