Fix ICL race conditions

[dakinggg]

What does this PR do?

Fixes two issues with ICL

• only downloads the dataset file once per node
• requires destination_path arg (and makes it possible to pass through the dataloader helper) to avoid accidentally overwriting files and loading the wrong ones

What issue(s) does this change relate to?

CO-1796

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