[1.9.x] Update memberlist to v0.3.1

[kisunji]

Includes cherrypick of 6713afd introduced in #10161

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[dnephin]

LGTM, thanks!

I fixed the release branch test failure in #12038 (just merged), so a rebase should fix the test failures

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