Default to arm64 builders for macos wheels and cross compile x86_64 by default #459

Job	Run time
release_default / Load build targets	5s
release_sdist_only / Load build targets	0s
release / Load build targets	3s
release_sdist_only / Build ${{ matrix.target }} wheels	0s
release_sdist_only / Build source distribution	0s
release_sdist_only / Upload	0s
release / Build source distribution	20s
release / Build linux wheels	8m 36s
release / Build cp311-macosx_x86_64 wheels	30s
release / Build cp311-macosx_x86_64 wheels	56s
release / Build cp312-macosx_arm64 wheels	23s
release / Build cp313-macosx_universal2 wheels	31s
release / Build cp3?-win_amd64 wheels	2m 51s
release / Build cp312-manylinux_aarch64 wheels	1m 45s
release / Build cp313-manylinux_x86_64 wheels	45s
release / Build cp311-manylinux_ppc64le wheels	1m 54s
release_default / Build source distribution	20s
release_default / Build linux wheels	8m 35s
release_default / Build macos wheels	3m 42s
release_default / Build windows wheels	8m 21s
release_default / Upload	1s
release / Upload	1s
	39m 39s

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