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Pathways to Liberation Matrix of Assessment |
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A matrix of 28 skills and development "levels" in those skills. Created by Jacob Gotwals, Jack Lehman, Jim Manske and Jori Manske between 2008 and 2011 it comes from the [[NVC]] world but is broadly applicable. From the website https://pathwaystoliberation.com/the-matrix/:
The Pathways to Liberation: Matrix of Self-Assessment (“the Matrix”) was developed to support self-assessment of the skills and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). The Matrix is a collaborative project created by Jacob Gotwals, Jack Lehman, Jim Manske and Jori Manske. In 2008 we started writing about skills for transforming life and relationships, in the service of creating a world of personal and systemic wellbeing and collaboration. We worked together for 3 years to create a list of skills and a measure of their development from unknown to integrated.
You can find the matrix in multiple languages on: https://pathwaystoliberation.com/the-matrix/
- English spreadsheet version (latest): https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1KPIvCD_XIGThKEsqZ-qKQwY0Op5pSe_r7uqksetW5FQ/edit#gid=10
- Online self-assessment with backing database: https://pathwaystoliberation.com/the-matrix-instructions/
- Pathways-to-Liberation-Self-Assessment-Matrix.pdf
- Very solid set of characteristics
- Big bonus is that it is openly licensed under Creative Commons attribution license.
(h/t to Karl Steyaert for flagging this to me).
- Presence: Being attentive to what is happening right now. Not lost in thinking, emotional reactions, etc.
- Observing: Noticing (and possibly describing) our sensory and mental experiences, and distinguishing these experiences from the interpretations we ascribe to them.
- Feelings Awareness: Ability to identify and experience our physical sensations and emotions.
- Self-acceptance: Accepting oneself with unconditional caring.
- Taking ownership of one's feelings: Living from the knowledge that I alone cause my emotions - my emotions are not caused by others.
- Needs consciousness: Awareness of (and the willingness to honor) needs, the essential universal elemental qualities of life (like sustenance, love and meaning).
- Reconnecting to self and recovering from reactivity: Reactivity is internal resistance to what is. Recovery is letting go of that resistance. Re-connecting to self is being with one's own experience with presence and compassion.
- Request consciousness & making requests: Willingness to ask for what one wants, with openness to any response; not attached to any particular outcome.
- Mourning: Transforming the suffering of loss; letting go of resistance to what is, and being willing to allow our experience to unfold.
- Empathy: Being present with another's experience, with unconditional acceptance of the person.
- Dissolving enemy images: Transcending one's perceptions that another deserves to be punished or harmed.
- Discernment: Clarity, insight, and wisdom in making life-serving distinctions and choices; recognizing one has choice.
- Living interdependently: Living from the knowledge that every individual is related to every other individual - every part of a system affects every other part.
- Honest self-expression: Owning one's experience and having the willingness to express authentically without blame or criticism.
- Facilitating connection: Facilitating empathy and honesty in dialogue with an intent to create connection.
- Patience: Remaining spaciously present when one feels stress. An ability to be with one's own reactions, without acting out of them.
- Responding to others' reactivity: Responding rather than reacting to others who are caught up in intense separating emotions.
- Openness to feedback: Receiving other's perspective about our actions with equanimity and centeredness.
- Beneficial regret: Acknowledging and learning from one's missed opportunity to meet needs, without guilt, shame, or self-punishment.
- Flexibility in relating: Openness and versatility in interacting with others.
- Transforming conflict: Using conflict with others as a means to connect and create a mutual outcome.
- Gratitude: Finding the value in, appreciating, and enjoying what is.
- Open-hearted flow of giving and receiving: Transforming scarcity thinking into thriving creatively; joyfully contributing and receiving.
- Cultivating vitality: Tuning in to oneself to support balanced self-care; cultivating the energy to serve life.
- Sharing power: Transforming domination; valuing everyone's needs with mutuality and respect; transcending submission and rebellion.
- Transcending roles: Aware that we are not the roles we play; having choice about what roles we adopt and how we respond to the roles others adopt.
- Awareness of response-ability: Freely choosing one's responses to what shows up in life, owning one's part in what happens. Not owning others' parts, and acknowledging that one's actions do influence others.
- Supporting holistic systems: Consciously participating in the creation and evolution of holistic systems that foster general well-being.